A Mother’s Heart- 7/18/2009 - Tug On Time

During the early months after Erika’s death, we sought counseling for help in dealing with our grief.  We needed help in sorting through our thoughts, feelings and emotions.  In one session, our counselor told us about the manner in which people in other cultures grieve the loss of a loved one.    The grief is extremely intense for a certain period of time.  For some, it’s one week.  For others it’s one month, and perhaps a full year for others still.  They wear black and allow themselves to sink into the depths of despair.  Then, after their allotted time of grieving has passed, they are done; they move on with their lives.  Rich and I adopted this philosophy to a certain extent; however, we knew we would need more time than one year.  So, after 3 years of intense grief, I feel it is time to think about living again.  Read more.